Empower is an Action Verb

By March 15, 2016Motivate Others



“As we look ahead into the next century, leaders will be those who empower others.” — Bill Gates

I believe in attraction rather than promotion. Pave the way so others can follow. Be a mentor. Be a good person. Work your ass off and earn what you deserve. If I don’t like something, or think something is unfair, I work to change it.

People often ask me if I am proud of what I have accomplished as a woman. I get super aggravated when people ask me that. I’ve had many heated discussions with women I respect and admire over “women’s issues.” They see things differently than me and that’s ok. I am not arguing that we should ignore this issue. I am not trying to undo historical progress for women’s equality. I am not trying to say that other women who focus on this, or fight for it, are wrong. I am proud of what I have accomplished period – regardless of my gender. Recently I was accused of not doing enough to support diversity. I say bullshit.

“If I stop to kick every barking dog I am not going to get where I’m going.” — Jackie Joyner-Kersee

I have a daughter. Her name is Antonella and she is 9 years old. She is a super sassy snowboarding, rock climbing, gymnastics tumbling, competitive swimming, honor-roll student – and a straight up Badass. She decided a couple of years of ago she wanted to be an actress.* Despite my efforts to talk her out of it, she is living her dream. I want her to have work ethic. I want her to experience disappointment and face consequences for her actions. I want her to accept rejection and live on without letting it define her.

I don’t talk to her about what she should or should not do as a “girl.” I strive to teach her what she needs to know to navigate her way through this world and not be afraid to go after what she wants. We don’t spend a lot of time talking about diversity and fairness in our house. We live it. My husband is Latino, she is mixed race and I am a full-time working Mother. She lives in a house where grit, determination, honesty, hard work, discipline and respect are paramount. She sees me go to work every day doing something I love. She sees me build relationships with my staff and knows them all by name – and they know her.

Women make up half of my staff at SoapBoxSample. I didn’t hire them because they are women. I wasn’t thinking about how to improve diversity when I promoted them. I was only thinking of their qualifications and the work they had done. I think that women are more than capable of succeeding in business and to act as if we need extra support does us all a grave disservice, men and women alike.

“It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed.” – Napoleon Hill

IMHO, the best way to fuel change, is to change one’s self – others will follow. Some of the old adages are the most powerful. Lead by example. Never give up. So break that ceiling. I do not care if you are male, female, old, young, fat, skinny, gay, straight, Republican or Democrat. If you want something, if you believe in something, go after it.

“Live authentically.”— Jacqueline Rosales

*See Antonella’s Fruitocracy Commercial (She’s the one in the pink jacket standing in the snow at 00:11).


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